101 Relationship Myths How to Stop Them from Sabotaging Your Happiness By Tim Ray Findhorn Press, 2012, $16.95
Challenging many common delusions about love, this straight-talking, humorous guide takes a closer look at the insanity of modern-day relationships. 101 Relationship Myths uses simple “myth-busting” techniques for increasing self-awareness and avoiding misguided ideas. Guaranteed to provide greater clarity and contentment between any two people, this book provides provocative — and much-needed — social commentary in a humorous fashion.
In this entertaining and thought-provoking book, Tim Ray presents a revolutionary new way of looking at our relationships and why they can be so problematic — and then he goes on to offer some refreshing, new advice as to what we can do about it. Ray’s premise is that most of us believe in a wide range of myths about men and women, love and relationships that we’ve never questioned. And it’s our unquestioned belief in these myths that confuses us and makes us unhappy in our relationships. To help readers understand the power of myths in our lives, he identifies some of our most common relationship myths. And then he shows us how we can free ourselves from them. The result is much greater clarity, joy and love in our relationships.
Some of the myths Ray unveils are:
A relationship can only work if you compromise
I need a partner to be happy
My happiness is dependent on my partner
If you love me, you'll do what I want
I’m more selfish than my partner if I don't do what my partner wants
I know what is best for my partner
It’s better to be in a relationship than to be single
Strong sexual attraction means we're a good match
“Every time you believe that reality should be different than it is right now, you suffer. It’s actually that simple," Ray says.
About the Author
Tim Ray is a popular relationship columnist and blogger, and has appeared in relationship programs on TV, been a guest lecturer at couple’s therapy school, and has a private counseling practice. He calls his work “Getting Real” and by this he means how to live a happy life by waking up to the nature of reality and the way the mind works.
Read an excerpt:
Your thoughts, beliefs and stories about relationships determine — for better or for worse — your experience of your relationship.
Now that everyone can see that the Titanic is really sinking, Tim Ray has come along with an unexpected lifeboat! Hallelujah! — Barbara Berger, author of The Awakening Human Being
Now that everyone can see that the Titanic is really sinking, Tim Ray has come along with an unexpected lifeboat! Hallelujah!
— Barbara Berger, author of The Awakening Human Being and Fast Food for the Soul
An entertaining and courageous book that shows us how we can experience more happiness in our relationships by questioning the traditional way of doing things. I warmly recommend this book to everyone who's interested in personal development.
— Joan Ørting, Denmark's leading sexologist, couples therapist, TV host, and bestselling author
