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Spiritual Hunger
Integrating Myth and Ritual into Daily Life

By Allan Hunter

The Nature of Spiritual Hunger

These days, spiritual hunger is mostly seen only in its negative aspect. Most people experience it as that feeling that nothing much matters, that we don’t care much about anything or anyone, not even ourselves. We may feel it as a lack of love, a lack of meaning that seeps into our lives.

Unfortunately, a growing body of people all over the world report feeling this same emptiness. Depression, for example, has often been linked to this sense of lack of meaning. Approximately one in four Americans will suffer from depression at some time in their lives—and those are just the people who report it. Compulsive activities and addictions can blunt this feeling, at least for a while. They give a direction to a life that has no direction, but at a dreadful cost.

In this book I’m going to show you how you can push back against this tide of despair and find deep meaning in your life. This is because spiritual hunger is, in itself, entirely natural. We long for meaningful connection to something bigger than ourselves. We yearn to know that we are not alone in our situation in life, and that others have been in similar situations and survived. When we find this knowledge we can feel more centered in our lives, our culture, our world. This is the positive side of spiritual hunger. It urges us to find more meaning in our world. It asks us to look more deeply into the experience of being alive.

So where can we find this sense of connection? The answer may surprise us. We can learn how to feed our own souls if we pay attention to literature, to myth, and to another form of “story”: ritual.

Words like “ritual” are treated with suspicion these days, and the idea itself has become tarnished. It has the smell of old churches, dust, and candle smoke about it. And, in fact, we’ve abandoned many of the venerated rites and formalities our ancestors would have upheld energetically. Often this is a great relief, but when we throw out a ritual, what is it we’re throwing out, exactly? In many cases we’re rejecting the understandings and reassurances that held earlier generations together, the actions that provided them with a sense of social stability.

Researcher Brene Brown put it well when she said, “Stories are data with soul,” and we can extend this and say that ritual actions are a way of creating a lasting story, where the information takes on permanent value, and so gives us a way to remember it.1 In the process it can open our hearts to the deep significance of the occasion—but only if we choose a productive and nurturing ritual.

On the whole, we live today in a culture that is strangely devoid of meaningful customs, and where ritual has been stripped of its sense of story. For example, children progress through our schools in a sort of lock-step that has to do with exams and graduating. Unfortunately, the emphasis is on the exams and passing them rather than on developing a sense of personal awareness or individual responsibility that might be a better way of approaching adulthood. Certainly that would be more helpful in navigating the outside world. Any deeply felt rituals of “graduation” and of being promoted to new levels of personal competence have been ignored. For many people high-school graduation itself has been reduced to an excuse to dress up, and little more. The heart’s need for an affirmation that real change has occurred is left untended.

Here’s another example. Almost everyone takes a driving test. It’s just a chore we have to get through. Yet huge numbers of teenage drivers in the United States kill themselves and others because they can’t handle the responsibility of being in charge of a large, powerful motor vehicle. It’s the leading cause of death for American teens.2 This is something we really ought to be concerned about, yet even a quick look at the situation will show us that these young people have been trained for the test but not taught about how to handle their own responses to power. Is this really so very far removed from the ancient legend of the young Phaeton, who begged his father Helios to let him drive the sun-chariot, lost control of it, and was killed? The Greeks had that legend for a reason.

Again, in the United States, we have the right to “bear arms.” As a result, every year about 12,000 people die in gun-related incidents. That’s a lot of coffins. It’s close to three times as many deaths as were incurred by US forces in nearly 10 years of fullscale war in Iraq.

 My point is that the law guarantees these rights, but there are few understandings about the responsibilities involved. Laws cannot save us from ourselves; responsibilities can. And these responsibilities are traditionally taught through story, legend, and ritual. Laws are always about lower, external compulsions to conform, while responsibilities require us to use our higher moral awareness and involve our hearts more fully in the business of living. Yet we cannot live from this higher heart-awareness if we’re only looking at getting what we can get right now in order to keep up with our peers. This sense of competition, of ego gratification, actually separates us from everyone else. In contrast, a responsibility makes us more aware of our connection to our community, and this is a heart-based connection.

Without this heart-based connection many people tend to feel lost, so they act in ways that are not always healthy. This is especially dangerous for our young people. Religion no longer seems sufficiently strong to uphold the cultural values we once lived by, and anyway, our culture is changing too fast for most of us to comprehend. That’s why so many of us suffer from spiritual hunger. We know we need something to nourish our sense of being, our sense of purpose, and of belonging, but we can’t find much that will satisfy that need.

If we accept that we can look for guidance to those long-neglected myths, legends, and rituals that exist in our culture, we’ll need to see how they work so that we can feed our hearts and spirits. For all three of these sources of guidance depend upon us knowing the stories or ritual actions so that we can practice vital life lessons and become aware of our limits before a crisis arises. Let me give you an example.

I once asked students at one of my writing workshops to define courage. Courage is a word that derives from the French word coeur, meaning “heart,” so coeur-age has an underlying meaning of living from the heart.

The workshop members considered this and other ideas, and we had a lively and far-ranging discussion but, in the end, we all agreed on a definition: Courage is, in large part, knowing the right thing to do, then doing it—no matter how frightened you may be. So the “right thing to do” is based in a knowing that exists not in the mind but in the heart.

It’s a pretty good definition. As it happens it also applies to military training, where recruits are taught how to manage their fear and stick to their guns so that they will continue to do what they’re told, no matter what. Some people call that brainwashing, but I’m not so sure we can always jump to that conclusion. Doing the right thing while under stress depends upon repressing the desire to run away, so courage is at some level always about being prepared for what happens.

Being prepared gives us better options. We don’t panic. We make better decisions because we’re acting rather than reacting. It happens because we are telling ourselves a new story about who we are. When we do this we are no longer ruled by blind impulses. What this means is that courage is, to a large extent, about being sufficiently aware so that we can move through fear to a place of making strong choices—reasoned choices—when others might succumb to panic.

On the whole, good decisions come when we are in a calm and centered place, and bad decisions happen when we’re agitated, angry, or frightened. Courage and wisdom are, therefore, inextricably linked. In contrast, panic is always about me, about saving my skin. Courage and wisdom are always about community, and these are loving energies, since they do not see us as separate from one another. The wise decision helps everyone, not just the decider.

This is also a first-class recipe for getting through life. If I’m prepared for the likelihood that an acquaintance or relative is going to say something cruel, then I am not forced into being defensive and don’t have to feel hurt. I can choose to act from compassion, instead. More simply, if I know what a skid is, when my car skids on snow and ice I will know what to do to get safely through the situation without endangering myself or others. Wisdom is not just about knowing the right thing to do; it’s being able to keep on knowing it even when under stress.

Our mental health depends largely on understanding this. When a toddler screams at us we don’t have to take it personally, because it’s just a toddler screaming at us. That is a healthy reaction. Yet some people hit their children because they don’t know there’s any other way to react.

So we can see that training ourselves for whatever delights and disasters happen in our lives is—within reason—an entirely sensible way forward. It means that life experiences are no longer quite as raw and surprising as they might otherwise be. They can be understood through talking about the experience, sharing the knowledge— and that is also a ritual action.

Cultures depend upon this offering of vital advice in the form of stories and literature for exactly the same reason: to prepare us for whatever human situations will come and give us a standard of conduct that we can compare ourselves to. And they’ve done so for thousands of years. Some of that wisdom and awareness has been codified in rituals and myths. We can survive without this information, of course, but our lives will be qualitatively different. Ritual, at its core, creates a sense of order in what might otherwise seem like a chaotic world.

But there is more. When we feel connected to a meaningful ritual what we feel is gratitude for the wisdom in it, and that sense of gratitude is felt not in the mind but in the heart. Meaningful ritual—ritual that we understand thoroughly—is a way to open the heart and keep us in a place of real gratitude for the wonders of our life. It feeds our spiritual hunger and brings us closer to one another; the lack of it feels like loneliness and desolation.

Dr. Allan Hunter isn’t offering readers a prescription for dealing with the absence of relevant, viable myth and ritual in our current times. Instead, he is opening the door for discussion and providing well-thought-out guidance for making the exploration personal. He asks us to seek out rituals that already exist in our lives, evaluate them, and build an individual spiritual practice from there. Talking about everything from tattoos to funerals, he draws on ancient history, literature, and pop culture in order to get us to look at how we connect to the deeper meanings of life. Well versed in the needs of the human psyche, Hunter puts the creation of myth and ritual into the context of our individual need for courage and inner peace. He asks us to help determine society’s fate by becoming aware of how we meet those needs and how our choices impact the world around us.

— Anna Jedrziewski, Retailing Insight

Allan Hunter offers a timely and inspiring recipe for the spiritual hunger that many feel in our world today. With passion and compelling clarity, he advocates that we see more deeply into the myths and rituals that inform our everyday lives and that we often take for granted. For these very myths and rituals, when seen through the lens of metaphor and imagination, carry a sense of the holy, a sense of wonder and mystery that can reawaken a sense of our own holiness and reestablish a vital connection with an imperiled earth.

— Flynn Johnson, author of Journey to the Sacred Mountains