January/February 2009 Spirituality
Make Positive Energy Deposits into Your Relationship

by Gloria A. Burrell

Are you satisfied with your relationship? If not, look at the unseen energy culprits that could be corrupting and hijacking your relationship without your conscious awareness. The quantum energy aspect of your relationship lays the foundation for the quality of interactions, conversations and fulfillment you experience on a daily basis with your partner.

From a quantum perspective, you make energy deposits into your relationship with your thoughts, emotions and intentions. For instance, are you depositing nurturing or not-so nurturing energies (acceptance, love and understanding versus criticalness, shame and unhappiness)? Are you responding with patience or impatience? Are you focusing on what you do like or what you don't like? Do you forgive and forget quickly or hold onto things and obsess? Do you take responsibility for your actions or do you project and blame? Even when you can justify harsh actions, do you treat your partner with respect? Do you take time to compliment and praise or only focus on what he or she didn't do?

These are just a few examples of the energy deposits you could be making into the bank of your intimate relationship. Many times the deposits are executed with swiftness and little thought as to the quantum effect on the supporting structure of the relationship. Sometimes it is an ineffective habit we developed long ago. Whatever the case, for the sake of your relationship take a moment to update on your energy deposits.

Relationships are fed energetically. The energies come from the looks we give our partner or the seemingly innocuous gestures we make when interacting with our loved one. Even the way we touch our partner exchanges energies with their spirit. How about our attitudes? Can they be felt? Yes. Can our thoughts cause harm to our relationship and our partner? Yes. Can nice words cover up and hide nasty energies? No. Your gestures, attitudes and thoughts greatly affect your relationship.

Here are 10 ideas for improving the energy deposits you make into your relationship:

  1. Decide on the types of energies you want supporting your relationship (such as happiness, respect, admiration, trust and acceptance), and begin depositing these energies into your relationship through your thoughts, actions, attitudes and emotions.
  2. Become mindful of what your partner's energies are saying and rather than judge, ask questions and approach with an intent to learn and understand.
  3. If you are harboring resentment, hurt feelings, angst or unforgiveness, choose to learn what you need to do to be able to forgive and move on.
  4. Quiet your mind and listen from your heart.
  5. Become more conscious of the energies you are sliding in with your looks, attitudes, gestures, beliefs, perceptions, assumptions and words. After an interaction with your partner, look in the mirror and notice if your facial expression and body language matches how you think it should appear.
  6. Touch your partner on the shoulder, hand and back with the energies of appreciation, love, gratitude, acknowledgment and recognition.
  7. Avoid "you are" statements that carry the energies of judgment, accusation, blame and nonacceptance.
  8. Pay attention to the types of thoughts you hold in your mind about your partner -these thought forms are alive and do have an affect on your partner and the relationship.
  9. Notice how you talk about your relationship and your partner to others as this energy will not only be felt by your partner but also accumulate and become an energy that is either supportive or nonsupportive of the relationship.
  10. Avoid trying to win and be right as these energies create energy walls and blocks in the relationship. After building up these obstructive dynamics, the relationship does not have room to move or grow.

Using positive energy deposits, you can increase your love bank balance.

Dr. Gloria A. Burrell, founder of Creative Insights, has been specializing in assisting couples since 1983 in creating vibrant and loving intimate relationships utilizing quantum physics concepts, spirituality and original subconscious tools. Visit www.creativeinsights4u.com or email anwers4u2@comcast.net.