March/April 2003 Living Now
Ask Mariel: Attraction at Work in Your Aura

Dear Mariel,

I am not actively looking for someone to date so I’m sure I don’t have a look of desperation about me. But the way I feel right now is that I don’t want to ever date again because it seems the only guys who are attracted to me end up wanting to borrow money or have me help them pay their bills. Oh, and of course, they’re living in someone’s basement or garage. What is going on here? Is this an aura thing? If that’s it, can you actually change your aura? Why do I repeatedly attract the same kind of guys? I would love to understand what is happening.

Sign me,
Not your philanthropist

 

Dear Not your philanthropist,

It sounds like you are discouraged and that is your reason for giving up on dating. You are not alone. I want to encourage you to take heart. You can positively change your aura to attract what you are wanting. First, I want to congratulate you for growing in awareness and taking steps to change your life by courageously stepping forward to ask a difficult question.

To answer your question, this repeat pattern is absolutely the universe’s way of showing you something about yourself. Other people frequently mirror our self-image. The key is that this is happening repeatedly. It is an "aura thing" and more. The universe will send something repeatedly until you "get it" – the message you are to gain from this lesson. Once you learn the lesson, this will cease to be a problem. A lot of what we attract has to do with our own self-image and set of expectations. It is good to take a "time-out" when you are discouraged.

How you feel about yourself shows up in your aura. When you change your sub-conscious thoughts your aura changes too. You cannot change your history yet you can change your aura by changing your subconscious thoughts from this day forward. Receiving counseling from a spiritual advisor, NLP practitioner or hypnotherapist could be beneficial to quickly get to the root of what you are feeling and believing about yourself. If you contact me, there is an exercise I will be glad to share with you, and anyone else, for receiving answers from within yourself intuitively. Space does not allow me to include it at length in this column. Know that incorporating new insight will inspire beneficial changes in your life.

From the minimal information you supplied there are several possibilities that could be causing this repeat pattern. Our subconscious mind powerfully attracts the familiar. Here are some questions you can ask yourself to help you in your quest. As they say, "If the shoe fits wear it". Disregard what does not fit:

Could I improve my own self-esteem to attract a man who has higher self esteem? Do I see myself as a victim? Are men only sensing my kindness and generosity? Do I feel I have to earn love? Am I living in fear that I won’t "have enough"? I encourage you to explore further or contact me to receive insight for healing this situation and raising your vibration to attract a relationship where your financial assistance will not be expected. You deserve to be loved just for being yourself.

Mariel Martin is a Psychic Advisor and Life Coach with over 25 years experience in counseling. Mariel invites readers to e-mail their questions on career, health & love life to Mariel@invite2insight.com. Your identity is kept confidential. All letters will receive a response and one will be selected to share with readers in "Ask Mariel". For more information, visit Mariel’s website www.invite2insight.com ;or contact her at 515 NW Saltzman Road, #703, Portland,OR, 503-350-0705.