May/June 1999 Cosmic
The Dreaming Up Process
by Paul Levy
When you awaken inside of a dream you realize that everybody else
in the dream is not actually separate from you, but are in fact
different reflections of your own True Self. You begin to realize,
as the quantum physicists have pointed out, that not only is there
nothing objectively existing out there, but that the very way we
observe each other actually has an effect on each of us. In essence,
you discover that we are moment by moment "dreaming each other up."
When somebody sees you a certain way, they are, in terms of physics,
"collapsing the wave function," amplifying and evoking out of your
hologram of infinite potentiality a particularly limited aspect
of who you are. This immediately calls forth out of you exactly
that part of yourself, which if you aren't careful, you will find
yourself identified with and acting out, as if under a spell. Your
manifesting in this particular way just confirms to the other person
that this is who you are, so they will start to solidify you even
more this way, which pulls this part out of you even more, which
confirms to them even more that this is who you "really" are, ad
infinitum.
You can't say, though, that you are only manifesting in that way
because they are dreaming you up to manifest in that way, for you
are dreaming them up to dream you up this way; it is a mutually
arising process.
This is what I call "the dreaming up process." We are all dreaming
up our universe moment by moment. No one seems to notice this process,
though, as it not only happens in no time whatsoever, but it takes
place outside of time itself.
To the extent that we are asleep in the dream and have unresolved
wounds and abuse issues, we will unconsciously dream other people
up so as to endlessly recreate, act out, confirm and make real our
woundedness.
When you begin to wake up to the dreaming up process, which is
the same thing as becoming lucid in a dream, the boundary starts
to dissolve between dreaming and waking, between the inner and the
outer. When you wake up inside of a dream, be it a night dream or
the waking dream that you call your life, you recognize that the
outer dreamscape and your inner process are one and the same, as
the dream has been discovered to be nothing other than your own
inner process projected externally, or dreamed up, into the seemingly
outer dreamscape.
This is the key moment, as this is the moment when, instead of
reacting to the other as if they are separate from yourself, you
realize that you are both dreaming each other up to play roles in
each other's dream dramas. If both people realize that this is the
very nature of relationships, they have built a container which
can then embrace and work with whatever shadow energies get constellated.
Their relationship becomes the very vehicle through which they can
heal their woundedness and awaken to their true nature.
For more articles about dreaming, see www.communityconnexion.com/levy